I am not sure that the grace of God manifests by sweeping things under the carpet or by putting things away in a closet. The grace of God brings the painful things into the light and separates the soul from the spirit. Freedom is only through confession and repentance. We are not free from the things we are hiding from and will not speak about in the light of community. Come into the light. Confess your sins and pray for one another that you may be healed. The Spirit of God always leads us to confession, repentance, humility, and to forgiveness and reconciliation. I have experienced this in my life even recently. We cannot escape the Spirit of God and imagine that things are ok. Your life is not ok if it is not ok. Things will not get better if we do not ask for the light to shine into our lives and cast out the darkness. Perfect love casts out fear. It is ok to be broken and humble in the light. There is no other way to live. Fear is what keeps us from letting God be real in our lives. God will always lead you to a place of discomfort. It is in that place where the sin and rebellion become obvious to us. God is never surprised, only we are. God was not disappointed with Peter, Peter was disappointed with himself. Jesus had the wisdom to let Peter's heart break as he came to grasp with his weakness as he asked him 3 times if he loved Him. He didn't say, "cheer up friend! It's ok. I know you didn't mean it hey after all my grace is new every morning." He said, "if you love me feed my sheep." Jesus said "if".
He didn't say, "I know your heart man, it's ok". Jesus came to save us from our sin not to make us comfortable living in it. If you are comfortable living in it or are willing to live a lie then it is likely that you are what is called deceived and bound by something that owns you and hates you more than you can imagine. Do not fool yourself and say that there is peace when there is no peace. Do not listen to the wayward wisdom of those who are asleep and want you to share in their lot of apathy and disregard. Wake up and make the changes in your life that you know good and well that God is expecting of you. Do not do this in your own strength, but have the courage to be honest with yourself and those whom God has already put on your heart to walk with you out if the darkness and into the light.


Forgive my tone.  We are adults and can factor out things like tone.