understanding

1.  Things are not as they seem.  2.  There is at a bare minimum 3 reasons why a thing could be what it is.

In your quest for your 3 reasons find at least one that is innocent.  This is not necessarily the reason but you have not done your work until you have found at least one.  Ask questions.  Seek unity and love. 

Give grace to the humble.  Resist the proud.