table of contents

My book may start something like this

Chapter 1:  Not All Things That Are Possible Are Likely...Until They Are

From the moment you read these words I want you to make a commitment to Love One Woman for the rest of your life.  If you are a woman, that you would commit yourself to loving one man.  I want you to commit that your love will go above and beyond all measures of appropriateness  to ensure that this person you have chosen will  be supported in the calling on their life, the call to being transformed by the knowledge of God.  This is a commitment that you will do whatever it takes to agree with the workings of God in their life.  When God's challenges to them cause discomfort to you, decide right now that you will submit yourself in humility and wisdom to God's work, that you will trust in Him to fulfill His purposes.  This calling on their life will become one of the greatest challenges in your life.  God's challenge to you is that you would commit and live with an unwavering trust that by giving yourself to God's work in another's life that you would be transformed into the person that God is creating you to be.  To serve this person that God has put into your life you will lay down your own which is a great honor.  This is who you were called to be!  You can step up to this calling and live with great joy as one who is blessed and honored by God as you become like Him.


Now That I am unable to surf Wikipedia at work for all the various knowledge that intrigues me I have decided to work on my book.  I have my very first version of a Table of Contents.  It is my first attempt and I know it will change.

1.  Love One Woman (introducing the concept of living for one love)
2.  A Woman Wants A Man (a man needs to be a man, defining what a man is in God's eyes)
3.  Eyes To See And Ears To Hear (knowing what you are looking for)
4.  Creating Expectations, Hopes, And Dreams (how to think about the future in a way that heightens love)
5.  The Honest Approach (the way to start a relationship, defining the parameters of heart goals)
6.  Protecting Integrity In Community (not cheating the system, holding each other accountable)
7.  A Place of Safety (creating an environment of love, safety, and commitment to commitment)
8.  Show Your Cards (being open and honest about fears, dreams, weakness and hopes)
9.  Picking Out a Ring (a word of courage to making a commitment before God to love this woman forever)
10.  You Can Do It!  (get engaged, married, and have kids...it never killed anyone, except for those it did)
11.  Adjusting To Change (living in a new paradigm, embracing it with courage and sharing with others the joy of being courageous)

I started mulling this over a little over a year ago.  I was really excited about it and was at a place in life that was very challenging in many ways.  I had the joy of being in a relationship for awhile and I got excited about the notion of maybe being able to write my book from a place that had a little more experience, so I opted for gaining experience.  I want to use this outline to make a better structure for something that I believe is on the heart of God.  I believe that God want's His people to love with integrity and hope in a way that is lasting.  Our culture has fed us lies and the church has yet to effectively combat those lies, but has rather has supported them.  God wants us to enjoy the gift of one another.  We have to be awake to God's design and heart for relationships in order to recognize them and exist within them in honor.  The mode that we exist in at this moment in history with regards to relationships is a lie and full of deception.  We promote the idea of testing the waters and learning what we like and don't like in potential mates is a good thing.  This is not a good thing.  We are directly encouraged to be deal breakers.  We are encouraged to defraud our brothers and sisters in Christ.  We are encouraged to be selfish and make sure we find a person who we deem assets to our goals and imaginations.  What frequently happens is that at the end of this process when we are sufficiently disenfranchised and jaded with our silly notions that we then settle for who is willing to embrace our broken lives at that moment, at that moment when we finally realize that our notions are no longer that interesting or lasting.  We have become different people with different ideas.  Breaking each others hearts and learning to be heart breakers has no value in the Kingdom of God.  I want to encourage a new generation to be people of courage.


Not all things that are possible are probable...until they are!